‘Are you having great sex with your wife/husband nowadays?’
I wonder how you’d react if someone asked you a question like this after church one Sunday. And imagine if they wanted details. I doubt if you’d start sharing.
In Britain, we’re relatively private, so we don’t ask questions like this. Actually, I’m not sure I know of any culture where people make inquiries of this sort. However, there’s another question we never, ever ask and it’s this one:
‘Would you mind sending me your bank statements for the past year?’
When you think about it, your financial affairs are probably just as private as your sex life. You don’t want people knowing how you spend your money. Why is that?
Just as the question about sex focuses on the most private details of how you use your body, your financial data tells them something far more important.
It tells them about your soul. Who you really are.
Your spending, your giving, your priorities, your values, they’re all to be found in your bank statement. And who wants to give away that kind of information?
So be careful of judging people based on appearances. You have no idea how much they are giving away, or even what their expenses are, let alone their income or savings.
Second, bank statements don’t lie. If you’re ready to be challenged by God, then get on your knees with a Bible in one hand and your bank statement in the other.
And please don’t worry. If I see you in church, I won’t be asking you about your income.
Or your sex life. Promise!